Just put oil on it and start kneading? Unfortunately, sex massage is not that simple. You need to know where and how to touch to activate the right sensations. A relaxing neck massage can be done by anyone – but the erotic partner massage is a great art and has to be learned! We reveal what is important in sexy kneading games. How to bring women to nipple orgasm.
How to prepare for a sex massage?
Before you get started, you need to think about a few basic things. Do not worry! All you need to do before the first massage. Next time you can start faster.
Important before the first erotic massage are:
The atmosphere must be right
In order for your beloved and yourself to really let go during the massage, you should provide the right ambiance. Ideally, it is quiet in the room (construction noise rarely provides erotic feelings, but birdsong does). Dip the room in a pleasant light, lay out the blankets and have towels ready. Taking a bath together before the massage can also be very relaxing.
The right lubricant
With the scent of the massage oil can stand and fall eroticism. Ideally, you'll let your partner choose the scent of the oil. You can also use a massage candle. When these are lit, they do not produce hot and hardening wax, but warm, fragrant oil.
How to start the erotic massage?
Heating up: If you use oil from the bottle, you should first rub it between your palms and apply so that the beloved does not get frightened.
Touching: Feel the intensity of the pressure. Depending on the part of the body you are massaging, you should vary the pressure. Ask your beloved which pressure is comfortable for her. Even though it might turn you on if you elicit screams from her – it won't make her hot.
Turn on: Do not start immediately at the buttocks, rather start at the typical tense places, such as the neck and knead the beloved so loose. Only then can you slowly move on to other regions. The first commandment: Take your time (and hers)! Imagine you're arming a bomb. Experts don't screw around frantically, but handle the situation gently. All the greater is the (ecstatic) buzz afterwards.
Stimulate: Body contact is the basis of every massage. It triggers pleasant shivers on both sides. To keep the hot feelings going, make sure you never lose contact: When you move to the next side, never take both hands off the skin of the massaged, but always leave one hand on the skin. How to keep the contact throughout the whole time.
Do you know the hotspots of your loved one?
It is an advantage if you know exactly where your woman is particularly sensitive and what makes her really hot. Of course, every lady has her own preferences, but there are a few hotspots they all love: you should know these erogenous zones in women.
This is how the erotic massage from head to toe works
The erotic massage is classically a full body massage, from head to toe. Of course, you can also focus on just her favorite regions for a change. Perform each of the following massage techniques 8 to 10 times before moving on to the next one. Allow a total of about 15 minutes for the massage.
The head: Here you should proceed very carefully. The head and face massage is very intimate for many people and is therefore very suitable as part of the erotic partner massage. Massage the scalp with spread fingers. Let your partner decide how hard you want to work. Now gently stroke your partner's forehead and temples. The ears are interspersed with a lot of nerves. Massage the shells with light pressure of thumb and forefinger. If you press in the slight depression behind the ear, headaches can be reduced. Of course you can nibble on the ears or whisper nice things into them.
Neck and back: This massage can give your partner blissful shivers. Massage the neck and back with both hands. Feel tensions with your fingers and loosen them up. To do this, gently glide your fingers down the grooves along the spine to the tailbone. Then, vertebra by vertebra, you move back up to the neck. Vary pressure and movements. For example, drive with spread fingers or with the knuckles along the back or massage in gentle wave movements. Gently place your body on top of your partner to create as large a contact area as possible.
The hands: Even if it does not seem erotic at first sight, the hand massage is very relaxing and therefore prepares you for the later types of play. Spread your hands first. To do this, enclose the hand to be massaged at the side with both hands and slide downwards. Then do the same with each finger. You massage the inner surface and the ball with circular movements or with a light pressure massage.
Thighs and buttocks: As on the back, you may also grab the buttocks a little more forcefully. An interplay of gentle stroking and firm kneading pleases most women. You may also include kisses or touches with other parts of the body. From the buttocks you can also carefully feel the perineum and work on it with light pressure – if the partner likes it. From the buttocks, glide over the thigh muscles and the sensitive inner thighs down to the calves.
The feet: From the calves you glide gently to the feet. You should not underestimate the pleasure gain here, because by means of the foot reflex zones you can stimulate almost every part of the body. A lot of nerves end in the soles of the feet – no wonder you're so ticklish here. Pay attention to the signals of your partner during the first foot massage: At which points does the massaged person react particularly?. Feel your way slowly and grip a little tighter at first so that the person being massaged does not react ticklishly. One of the sensitive acupressure points is located on the ball of the foot below the point of the big toe and second toe. Even slight pressure here provides erotic feelings that reach the genital area. It can also be exciting if you place your thumbs at the heel end on the sole of your partner's foot and move forward from there in light tapping movements. Pay attention to a rhythm of about one pressure movement per second and an even treatment of the entire sole of the foot. Of course, you may also kiss the sole of the foot and suck on the big toe – foot massage knows no limits.
What other hot massage techniques are there?
The massage techniques that deal with the genitals, so to speak below the belt, have their origin in the Tantra teachings.
Breast massage: Of course the name says it all. The breast massage can be very stimulating for both partners. Stroke the breast in slow movements. Either stroke gently from the inside out or move the breast in slow circular motions. Adjust the pressure to the lady's liking. This is how women want to be touched on the nipples.
Yoni massage: The Yoni massage focuses on the vagina and this is exactly what the term "Yoni" stands for. This massage starts like any other erotic massage, but then focuses intensively on the female pubic area. This is how you rob her of her senses with a yoni massage.
The Lingam Massage: In lingam massage, penis and testicles are the stars of the action. Massage is not just about giving the man an orgasm with your hand, but about experiencing every single touch intensely. The lingam massage can be a good exercise to delay the orgasm out.
Tantric massage: how to become a professional of erotic massage
You want to know all the secrets of partner massage? Then you should attend a Tantra seminar. About the Tantra Massage Association find a masseuse near you. "In Tantra you and your partner learn to rediscover your own sensuality through special forms of massage. You will improve the quality of your touches and expand your touch repertoire," says Tantra seminar leader Regula Schenkel from Zurich. Who expects sex orgies at the Tantra course, is on the wrong track. "It's about finding yourself through meditation, sensory and physical experiences. Sex can also be a part", says Regula Schenkel. How it works: With a tantric massage to an unforgettable orgasm.
A weekend seminar for beginners costs depending upon organizer starting from 180 euro. Unfortunately, there is no generally valid seal of approval for the providers. When choosing an institute, make sure that the course instructors have psychological or pedagogical training. Because the stroking course requires knowledge of human nature.
Everything about tantra massage
In the Professional Association for Tantra Massage (TMV) are organized renowned tantra massage practices and training institutes. In a video the association explains the profession of the tantra masseur.
Important for an erotic massage is the right atmosphere. Massage the whole body and take your time. Of course you can also focus on your lady's favorite regions. With our massage techniques, every woman will quickly become wax in your hands – we promise!
- 1 How to prepare for a sex massage?
- 2 How to start the erotic massage?
- 3 Do you know the hotspots of your loved one?
- 4 This is how the erotic massage from head to toe works
- 5 What other hot massage techniques are there?
- 6 Tantric massage: how to become a professional of erotic massage