Cunnilingus: how to spoil her with your mouth

It's not just men who like to be orally pleasured. More and more women love it when the partner spoils them orally, because for many ladies this is the fastest way from pleasure to orgasm. Before sex, it's a popular technique to get your partner really hot and wet. 7 ways to make your partner really hot while licking her.

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What actually is cunnilingus?

Cunnilingus is about caressing and kissing the vulva – the external sexual organs of the woman – with the lips and tongue. This goes from your labia to your clit. The trick: start with slow touches and increase the speed and pressure only when you notice that your partner's arousal is rising. It's a matter of technique whether a woman can climax by tongue. But don't worry, you can easily learn especially refined techniques.

1. How cunnilingus works for beginners? The (careful) clitoris tickler 

Here's how: Your partner lies on her back. But instead of spreading her legs as usual, she keeps them closed. You can now only reach the clitoris with your tongue.

Special feature: The position is especially suitable for insecure women who are not yet completely comfortable with cunnilingus. And she is virtually the entry point for everything here nor follows.

The way to orgasm:…leads via the stimulation of the clitoris, that much is already clear. But first you have to get there. Women who have a hard time letting go during oral sex won't be free to shout, "Fuck you!!" shout. And for that reason, you'll start at the other center of her pleasure: the head. Kiss her from top to bottom, slowly and gently. And after the breasts, don't leave out the belly and the pubic bone, as a test zone, so to speak. The rest then follows by itself.  

2. Oral sex with relaxed neck: What is Querulatio?

Here's how: Your partner lies on her back, you lie diagonally over her, your head pointing towards the end of the bed. So your face lands exactly the other way round than usual on her genitals, nose downwards. Grab with one arm around her waist and approach her preciousness with your hand from below. From there you gleefully pull the labia apart, kissing them. And lick it. And suck on it. This is what every man should know about oral sex.

Special feature: You can relax the neck muscles. In addition, you have more body contact with her than with most other cunnilingus positions – and many women appreciate that. Consequence: she lets herself go rather, becomes wilder. And when the time comes, there's still your penis waiting ..

The path to orgasm: Here the best technique is a downward tongue movement over the clitoris, which even very touch-sensitive women like. Vary with an upward motion that uses the soft underside of your tongue. If your tongue tires prematurely, hold your hand to help out. Here you can find 17 more ways to pleasure her vagina.

3. This is how you bring her to orgasm from the side

How to: Approach your partner from below. She puts one leg over one of your shoulders while the other stays flat on the bed, under your shoulder or arm. She should twist a little so the hip on your shoulder lifts slightly. You can place a hand under her hip to support her in this position.

Speciality: This position is ideal for women whose one side of the clitoris is more sensitive than the other. Yes, there are.

The path to orgasm: Because a hip is elevated, it can support your tongue play with its own movements and direct you more easily to the sensitive points (it's about time it cooperated anyway).

4. How does licking doggy style work?

Here's how it works: Your partner squats on all fours, her head lowered. You approach her from behind.

Feature: First of all there is the wonderful view. And there's just nothing wrong with it. You don't have to lift your legs, you don't have to support your hips, you just have to make yourself a little comfortable – in front of a pleasure organ that can't open up any further at all. Especially not when your sweetie is also sticking her butt steeply in the air.

The path to orgasm: … Is short. You can suck on her labia, lick her clitoris, penetrate her with your tongue – and if you position yourself cleverly, you can even reach her breasts with your hands.

5. She's in charge: Do you know the floating butterfly?

How it works: You lie on your back, she kneels upright above you facing your feet, her upper body leaning against the wall, the most important part hair above you.

Specificity: When she's about to climax, she can control the speed and intensity, changing the angle of her pelvis so you can get to her personal hotspots better.

The path to orgasm: She gives the commands. So don't follow her when she raises the pelvis, don't try to reach places she has removed from the target zone – there is surely a reason for that. Focus on what's within reach, tongue movement upward.

6. How to do cunnilingus on the chair?

How it works: Your partner sits on a chair, legs spread apart. Sit in front of it.

Special feature: Everything you want to reach presents itself to you at eye level. Depending on the spread, the vagina opens sometimes more and sometimes less.

The path to orgasm: … leads over a classic right-left tongue thrusting. And because your hands are free, there are a few extras in there: fondling your breasts, penetrating with your fingers, spreading your labia, bicep curls…

7a. Oral sex in the classic way: under & over (variation 1)

Here's how: Your lover is lying on her back with her legs crossed over your shoulders. You are in front of her on your stomach; where your face is, you know. If you put a pillow under the lady's butt and one under your breast, you won't get a stiff neck.

Feature: Women who love emphasizing the upward movement while licking will also like this position. Mainly because the upper, or rougher part of the tongue, contributes more to her arousal.

The path to orgasm: Use your hand to push the skin of the pubic area a little bit upwards. This increases the basic tension on the clitoris. And this increases the effect of your tongue play.

7b. Best prospects for him while licking: Under & over (variant 2)

This is how it works: Same position as variation 1. But this time your partner pulls one leg up to her chest. You'll soon have to hold it in with one hand, namely when she starts squirming with pleasure.

Feature: In this position, the entire abdomen, including the vagina, comes further up. There are a few advantages to this:

1. It relieves your neck.
2. You have a great view.
3. You can plunge into her with your whole face.
4. There is no more direct way to stimulate a woman's womb.

The way to orgasm: Gravity helps: Moisture is constantly collecting in your mouth. You should use it to keep the licking terrain always nice and smooth – then your partner slides to orgasm.

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Conclusion: Your tongue is a multitool

In fact, more women orgasm during cunnilingus than during the actual sexual act. The advantages compared to manual stimulation or penetration are obvious: with the tongue you can touch intimate areas much more sensitively and sensually than with your fingers. Your tongue is a real multitool in bed – use its potential!